Archive for Self Image
It’s Because You’re Too Fat
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My husband asked me why – in my entry about Ivanna – I hadn’t written about Cyril – her husband – who for years had said that Ivanna was too fat to be attractive to him physically. (Later Cyril acknowledged that her weight had never truly been the problem.)
I explained to my husband that the whole fat thing had never really been a part of their marriage, and that it certainly had nothing to do with my piece – which was about growth and self-discovery, and courage. But, it got me thinking.
(I bet a lot of you are wondering, “Well, was she too fat?”)
Acceptance & The Gift of Birds – Conclusion
Posted by: | CommentsIf I know – and I do – that others are doing the best they can and that is not only enough, but good, who am I to hold myself to a higher standard?
I believe that all that is is connected, because we all came from some fundamental source – call it a Big Bang, or God, or Universe, or that which has no name: Source. And I believe that our natural state, our core, is one of joy and well-being, and that there is great beauty in all things – though I may not always be able to see it – because we are all derived from the same Source. If there is beauty anywhere, there is beauty everywhere.
Certainly, there is beauty in birds, and none of the birds I had seen seemed to be lacking in any way.
Acceptance & The Gift of Birds – Part 2
Posted by: | CommentsIf I know – and I do – that others are doing the best they can and that is not only enough, but good, who am I to hold myself to a higher standard?
There is a strange and special alchemy about coaching, which is partly what makes it such a rewarding activity. I almost always am coaching people in areas where I need to work myself, and the insights we discover can always be reflected back towards me – it’s one of the not so secret bonuses of being a coach. Even when I don’t see it in the moment, upon reflection, the bonus is always there – and often blatantly obvious.
For those of us who continually work on ourselves, it is as if we are a series of Russian Nesting Dolls – we remove one layer and then at some point realize we have another layer of the same Read More→
Acceptance & The Gift of Birds – Part 1
Posted by: | CommentsIf I know – and I do – that others are doing the best they can, and that is not only enough, but good, who am I to hold myself to a higher standard?
I turned fifty a month ago, and used the occasion as an excuse to try and figure myself out. I knew it was time to really inquire within, get honest, and face whatever truth I had been avoiding. Surely I had been doing something wrong, otherwise I would have dreams and desires that I could articulate – wishes and wants that I could focus upon and make real.
I decided that if I removed distractions, placed myself in a state of awareness, and consciously set my intention: wisdom would come. So I went into a convent for a week – an amazing experience – but that is a story for another time. And at the end of the week I was no smarter than I was before – just more frustrated, because my plan had failed.
Ivanna Be Brave
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I was chatting with my friend Ivanna (not her real name) the other day.
Ivanna is one of those people who seems lit from within with a bright golden light. She is strong and passionate and vital and driven. She is capable and beautiful and creative and hard-working and fun. She is both interested, and interesting. She’s a great friend.
Ivanna will take charge and get things done and she takes her responsibilities and commitments seriously. She has been very responsible and committed for a long time. Her daughter is away at college now and is doing well – grown to be strong and independent as her mother had hoped. She didn’t come home at all this summer and Ivanna is good with that – it’s the way it should be.
